Why Am I So Unhappy With Myself Most Of The Time

By Charles Ross


Often, when people are not happy with themselves, it usually begins with a something temporary and it can build up gradually, until they begin to ask more questions about themselves in a more negative way. A common question is, why am I so unhappy with myself. This is a question that is difficult to answer, especially when it comes to happiness.

When this drags on for more than two weeks and you are still feeling out of sorts, you need to take action. When you neglect these feelings, you will find that it can be draining and exhausting. You will develop other problems. One can develop a little depression because of something that happens in their lives. This turns into a sense of low confidence and a low self esteem.

When you have a low confidence, you won't be very happy with yourself. You won't be thinking that you can achieve a lot in your life. You may have failed a lot in life. It can lead to negative emotions. It may relate to the way in which you see yourself on a physical note. People may find that they are too fat or too thin. They don't approve of their looks or their figure. It can go on and on.

People become more and more self conscious about themselves, the longer that they dwell on these issues, and simply avoid them. However, they will eat away and continue to affect you in one way or another. People go through life in this state. They may end up surviving by having a comfort in their lives which can be their escape. It can be alcohol or food, for example.

People work a lot or they go shopping which helps them to escape from everything else and puts them on a high. Other addictions develop and this is not uncommon, but obviously complications will exist with this as well. Loved ones should encourage the individual to go to therapy. There is so much that one can learn about themselves during this time.

Continuing with this sort of lifestyle where you begin to escape from your unhappy emotions and feelings and develop addictions, can cause so many other problems. Eventually, other psychological problems will develop as well. Once you come down from your high, you will be in the same position where you feel alone, overwhelmed and stuck in that place.

When you want to show your strength in terms of improving, you need to become vulnerable. It takes a great deal of courage to get to this point where you are fully focused on your emotions and being able to express them verbally and non-verbally as well. However, one has to trust the therapist, knowing that they have the experience to guide the individual using the most suitable methods.

It is not easy to love other people when you can't love yourself, and this is what the therapist will help you with. It is the self talk which makes the situation worse. Often, it is only the individual who tells themselves that they are worse off than they actually are. This is due to negative thoughts in their mind, and this needs to be reversed.




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