How To Locate A Jewish And Interfaith Rabbi

By Dennis West


When it comes to getting married, there a number of important steps the bride and groom must take. It is often advised that the first step be to locate an officiant. Whether looking to acquire a local minister, pastor, priest or jewish and interfaith rabbi, these individuals often book up well in advance of events. As such, most couples are advised to request and reserve the services of an officiant or officiates as soon as having a date for the wedding.

While a rarity in the past, a number of Jewish rabbis are now performing interfaith weddings. Most common in the California Bay Area, rabbis are officiating interfaith marriages where others only co-officiate along side priests, ministers and pastors. In fact a recent survey which included 881 rabbis in America on such practices showed that the interfaith weddings are become more common.

Regardless of the survey, no denomination recognizes co-officiating though reconstructionist movements provide rabbis with autonomy if and when performing these non-traditional services. Whereas, the conservative movement remains against any and all rabbis participating in or officiating at weddings or other mixed-faith events. While this is the case, there are still a limited number of rabbis in the conservative movement whom will do so in secrecy.

While there have been surveys in the past which showed approximately 50/40 percent of rabbis would officiate these mixed-faith marriages, the statistics have since changed. In fact, the practice is becoming more common not only in the more liberal areas of the United States but also in some more conservative areas. In addition, there are now some Orthodox Jewish leaders which will officiate these mixed-faith weddings though will only do so in secrecy.

One Rabbi in California whom also directs InterfaithFamily, an non-profit organization in the Bay Area said that the findings are not surprising, especially for Northern California. Whereas, these services, though now becoming more common throughout the United States might be more of a shock in the Bible Belt states of South.

In some areas, rabbis have noted that by offering to officiate at these mixed-faith weddings, establishing relationships with the couples following the service has often been easier. In addition, when it comes to counseling, the rabbi can better understand the differences in faith when it comes to counseling the couple on a number of issues.

In a time when individuals can become ordained in minutes online, one Jewish rabbi suggest that it is a good sign that couples are requesting these interfaith rabbis to officiate at weddings. For, it shows that faith is more important to the couple, even if of mixed faiths than others whom simply acquire an ordained minister from a website. As a result, more rabbis are considering officiating or co-officiating at weddings and other mixed-faith events.

All in all, interfaith officiants and ceremonies seem to occur mostly in the liberal areas of the United States. While this is the case, rabbis providing these services hold on tight to Jewish traditions when doing so. For example, one Jewish chaplain and rabbi whom works at a hospital and nursing home in California will co-officiate as long as the ceremony does not include any mention of Jesus Christ. As such, couples often still find difficulty in selecting the right officiants for these non-traditional weddings.




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