The Value Of Developing Self Love

By Susan Cooper

There are many things that people work towards in their lives. This can include goals in the work place as well as in their personal lives. Many people like to lose weight or aim at developing personal relationships. A lot of individuals like to improve their lifestyles with materialism. However, many people don't realize the importance of developing self love.

Without self love, you will find that your relationships will suffer and it you will begin to replace many of the finer qualities in your characters that you feel you lack with materialism or greater achievements, focusing on the outward appearances. People sometimes focus on other people, without paying enough attention to themselves and this can be crippling.

A lot of people don't know about their unique character. They are not aware of their special personality or their strengths and how they can use these gifts to the best of their abilities. This allows your personality to shine through. Many people become negative because they are constantly comparing themselves to their colleagues and their friends.

It is understandable why you may be harsh or unkind to yourself. You will have a stressful job. You may be a parent who has a child who is going through a bad patch. This can lead to self blame. You may also have come from a dysfunctional family. Individuals who have grown up in this way usually put themselves down and are often negative about themselves.

It is more difficult to be kind to yourself when you have been emotionally abused. This will be drilled into the brain from a young age. However, it is important to change these negative thought patterns. Often, this requires intense therapy. It can be a slow process, but one needs to be patient. Over time, clients begin to improve and this is obviously encouraging.

People begin to see that they are, indeed unique in terms of their personality and their character. It is important to take note that when you compare yourself to others, you will continue to become negative about life. You will want to achieve more like your colleague or be more extroverted like your friends. However, those people won't have certain qualities you have.

You also need to make sure that you are in the right circles. This will give you more encouragement. Being with people who are negative about their lives will bring you down further. If you are in a relationship which causes you to become depressed because you feel that your partner is not compassionate, encouraging or kind, it is time to move on.

Self care is also something to pay attention to. You will feel so much better when you pay attention to yourself and the way in which you make yourself feel. This can include relaxing in a spa. Some people feel better after a massage. Changing your look by having a new hair style or buying a new outfit can also work well. Exercise or meditation also works wonders.

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