Why Having Grace Is So Underrated

By Evan Sanders


Just because I didn't have a huge reaction to thinks on the surface doesn't mean that deep down inside I didn't make a choice. Even though you didn't get to see me put on some display, it doesn't mean that there won't be consequences to your actions.

When I was very young, I was completely out of control in regards to my emotions. I would explode at everything and I was about the closest thing you could get to a living lightning storm. Everything about me was a living stress reaction to what was happening in life and I didn't have any control over it.

As I grew older, I got quieter. I stopped talking as much and became more and more aware of what was going on around me. I became an observer instead of someone who was running around with no ability to engage in self-reflection.

And from all of this, I learned something very important about life.

Not everything needs some sort of big reaction.

Not everything needs to have a huge amount of effort attached to it.

You don't always have to have some big action that is designed to be a counter reaction to life.

And as I would soon find out, there's a great amount of strength in being graceful under pressure. Instead of resisting everything, you have to go with it and be more fluid.

But there's something else I learned all of those years later.

It was for others to never mistake my ability to keep myself calm under pressure in the face of someone else losing their own character to be inaction on my part.

You can act in silence.

You can be gentle with your touch.

You can be calm.

Because if you know what is good for your heart and your soul, you will learn that exploding and losing control is only going to harm you in the long run.

And most of all, I refuse to embarrass you and lose myself along the way.

Because I could raise hell, but I won't. I'm looking out for me, and I'm looking out for you at the same time.

It's time to try a different approach.




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