Dangerous word...that word "should."
There's a lot of serious emotions attached to that word. There's a lot of major suffering that comes along with that word. Pain. Grief. Expectation. The works.
That word can do a lot of damage in your life and keep you stuck completely in the past.
Maybe you've said this before...
"This should have gone down in a very different way."
The very fact of the matter is that it didn't go that way at all.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When the "should" you have exists in the past, you aren't able to come to terms with what happened because you want it to go a different way entirely. You can't accept the facts and you keep on thinking that it should have gone a completely different way. You see how dangerous this is?
So what do we need to do? Come back to the present moment.
There's danger in having your "should" exist in the future as well. When your should is in the future, you are projecting specific events that have to happen onto a time and place you really have no idea what will happen in the first place. Then, when your projection doesn't happen you end up being incredibly disappointed.
You have to keep coming back to the present moment.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
These dark times will always be there.
But what makes us suffer endlessly is not accepting the truth.
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
What happens when you let go of your past and your future?
You get to live in the present. You get to live in knowing that life is going to take care of you no matter what happens.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No living in the past...because we've accepted it.
No future...because you're in the moment.
You're here.
So stay in touch with the present moment and exist in the present.
Live in a world of acceptance.
There's a lot of serious emotions attached to that word. There's a lot of major suffering that comes along with that word. Pain. Grief. Expectation. The works.
That word can do a lot of damage in your life and keep you stuck completely in the past.
Maybe you've said this before...
"This should have gone down in a very different way."
The very fact of the matter is that it didn't go that way at all.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When the "should" you have exists in the past, you aren't able to come to terms with what happened because you want it to go a different way entirely. You can't accept the facts and you keep on thinking that it should have gone a completely different way. You see how dangerous this is?
So what do we need to do? Come back to the present moment.
There's danger in having your "should" exist in the future as well. When your should is in the future, you are projecting specific events that have to happen onto a time and place you really have no idea what will happen in the first place. Then, when your projection doesn't happen you end up being incredibly disappointed.
You have to keep coming back to the present moment.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
These dark times will always be there.
But what makes us suffer endlessly is not accepting the truth.
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
What happens when you let go of your past and your future?
You get to live in the present. You get to live in knowing that life is going to take care of you no matter what happens.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No living in the past...because we've accepted it.
No future...because you're in the moment.
You're here.
So stay in touch with the present moment and exist in the present.
Live in a world of acceptance.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Bible Verses or these Hope Quotes to get some motivation to move forward!