How can we certain that our marriage will actually survive or if it will fail? I want to share with you one thing that will guarantee that it will in fact fail. Do you think that you know what it is? I'll give you one guess...
If you are like most people you probably said "fighting" because how could fighting be healthy for your marriage, right? WRONG
You may not believe me but it is actually the opposite. Research shows that avoiding conflict is actually the number one predictor that you are destined for a divorce. Isn't it ironic how we try to avoid conflict in order to benefit our relationship? But the truth is we are actually damaging it by not fighting with our spouse.
I really hope that you did not take that the wrong way. I am not saying that you should stop reading this and go hunt down your spouse and start a brawl. Let's face it fighting doesn't make for happy marriage either. But I am saying that if you have a healthy marriage then you probably fight. Having disputes is actually a good sign that you are still in love with one another. To be happily married you need to learn how to fight well.
A successful marriage is about learning how to master discussing your differences in a healthy manner. now this is not something that most come by naturally. It is something that we must learn how to do over time. But once you do learn how to fight properly then your disagreements can actually help you build a stronger bond.
EVERY successful couple has areas of disagreement. No two people are perfectly compatible. "Irreconcilable differences" are like a bad knee or a chronic back-they're part of every good marriage.
You do not have to hunt for the right person in order to succeed in marriage. Instead you need to learn how to have healthy fights with the spouse you already have. Because you are sure to have disputes and differences with anyone you pick. The real question is, can you learn how to discuss or fight through your difference in a healthy manner?
If you are like most people you probably said "fighting" because how could fighting be healthy for your marriage, right? WRONG
You may not believe me but it is actually the opposite. Research shows that avoiding conflict is actually the number one predictor that you are destined for a divorce. Isn't it ironic how we try to avoid conflict in order to benefit our relationship? But the truth is we are actually damaging it by not fighting with our spouse.
I really hope that you did not take that the wrong way. I am not saying that you should stop reading this and go hunt down your spouse and start a brawl. Let's face it fighting doesn't make for happy marriage either. But I am saying that if you have a healthy marriage then you probably fight. Having disputes is actually a good sign that you are still in love with one another. To be happily married you need to learn how to fight well.
A successful marriage is about learning how to master discussing your differences in a healthy manner. now this is not something that most come by naturally. It is something that we must learn how to do over time. But once you do learn how to fight properly then your disagreements can actually help you build a stronger bond.
EVERY successful couple has areas of disagreement. No two people are perfectly compatible. "Irreconcilable differences" are like a bad knee or a chronic back-they're part of every good marriage.
You do not have to hunt for the right person in order to succeed in marriage. Instead you need to learn how to have healthy fights with the spouse you already have. Because you are sure to have disputes and differences with anyone you pick. The real question is, can you learn how to discuss or fight through your difference in a healthy manner?
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