Learning How To Release Emotion

By Deborah Moore


Releasing emotion is a necessary part of life. One needs to be able to express oneself in order to say how they are feeling. It could be anger or fear, but to get to the next stage, one has to be vulnerable. Of course, this is never easy when you don't know how to release emotion and you have never been taught how to do this.

A lot of people become depressed, anxious, shameful or angry. However, they remember what their parents have told them. Parents tell children to stay strong. They tell boys not to cry and to be a big boy. This will have a negative impact on them as they grow up. They believe that men are not supposed to show their feelings.

Often, they will turn to alcohol. This may be their way of dealing with their anger. However, other people will continue to simply carry a lot of these feelings around like a burden. They become heavy in doing so. It is a heavy weight to carry around with you. There may be people who find an outlet which can come in the form of a creative activity.

When anger begins to brew up inside of you, you will often bottle this up until it becomes so great, that you become depressed and suffer from various other forms of psychological disorders. It is not only the psychological issues, but it is also physical pain that can come up from time to time. People can struggle with headaches and stomach ache and back pain, for example.

One needs to look for the right type of therapist to be able to process these feelings. There may be practical aspects to the therapy which can be helpful. There are also methods that will help you to cope with aspects, such as when you struggle with psychological issues. These can come up as a result of repressing these feelings.

Of course, this can be a long process during therapy. It will obviously depend on the underlying issue. Some people struggle with something such as abuse. They may be suffering from PTSD. They may have been suffering from recent triggers which have led to flashbacks. There is obviously a lot to deal with.

A person like this will struggle to express themselves because it is not something that they are used to doing. However, there are many ways of doing this. A therapist may feel the best way forward is to be more practical. This can include role play or art therapy. Other therapists will encourage the patient to talk without pushing them.

It is necessary to be more practical about helping someone like this. They will typically be negative about themselves. They need to love themselves, first and foremost in order to love others. They also need to recognize what the problem was and how it affected their lives. When they can begin to accept themselves, then they will begin to be more positive about life and those around them. This is part of the process. Relationships will improve as will their overall lifestyle.




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