Relationship Coaching Can Help Couples Grow Extremely Close

By Carl Hill


The vast majority of people long for special relationships with a partner that can share their lives with them. Unfortunately, so many relationships simply do not last. People are under tremendous pressure and they sadly neglect their relationships. Successful relationships require hard work and dedication from both partners. There may be an initial spark, but that spark needs to be nurtured into a long lasting flame. In many cases, this flame can be ignited by means of relationship coaching.

Coaches can be found in every sphere of life. Some specialize in helping their clients to maintain a healthy life style. Others focus on spiritual growth and there are many people that use coaches to help them discover meaning in life. People in relationships use coaches to help them grow a truly special bond. They need to learn how to fulfil each other and how to react to the needs of their partners.

A coach is not a magician. As is the case in sports, the role of the coach is to equip the team with the skills necessary to compete and to help them devise strategies to do better. The coach do not play the game or win matches. In relationships, a coach cannot provide a formula that will make the bond work. His job is to help each partner to understand his or her role in the special bond that the partners share.

Many relationships falter because the partners do not understand the needs of each other and the simply fail to communicate with each other. A coach will help them to discover their own needs and to recognize the needs of the partner. People also have different expectations from relationships and these will never be fulfilled if the partner is not aware of those expectations. The coach will help them through this discovery process.

There are numerous benefits to using a coach. Professional coaches do not adhere to any specific religious belief or set of ethics. They are independent and they are never judgemental or prescriptive. They are also neutral, never defending the position of one partner or advocating the needs of another. They maintain a strict code of confidentiality.

It is interesting to note that a large percentage of the clients seeing coaches are, in fact, in very stable and happy relationships. They keep seeing their coaches because it helps them to keep their relationships strong and innovative. The needs of people change as time goes on and those in relationships need to adapt. Coaches help such couples to remain open minded and willing to change.

Finding a coach is not always easy. It is important to use a coach that has extensive experience in dealing with relationships. Some coaches offer a free initial consultation in order to allow the clients to see if they feel comfortable with him. It is also important to make sure that the coach knows exactly what it is the couple hope to achieve during the process.

For many people, a coach is a necessary member of the team of professionals, such as the house doctor and family lawyer, that looks after their well being. In emergencies they may be needed frequently and at other times only for a strengthening of the bond. In an age where relationships frequently fail, coaches can play an important role.




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